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11th August 2020 
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Hello and welcome.

I am a counsellor based in Shepton Mallet and Wells, accessible from Glastonbury, Radstock and the wider Mendip area. I also provide counselling via Skype, Zoom and telephone.

It can be hard to share the things you most need to talk about with the people in your life, can't it? This is often for fear of being judged, causing upset, having your personal issues disclosed or being told what to do. Sometimes there's just simply no one there. These obstacles are removed when you come to counselling.

As your counsellor I will help you unpack and examine troubling and difficult feelings, free from the obstructive power of judgement.  I don't tell you what content to bring - I encourage you to home-in on what feels important for you to focus on. I don't tell you what you should do or feel - I help you find out how you feel and what, if anything, you want to do about it. It's surprising how many of us don't actually know - we are too busy trying to fit a concept of ourselves that wasn't created by us, but rather by a vital need for love and acceptance when we were younger.

Counselling can work at different levels: sometimes you just need an Other with no personal agenda of their own to show they really hear and understand what you are experiencing - this in itself can feel like a load is lifted, sometimes even after just one session.

Sometimes it takes for you to experience yourself as accepted, understood and prized repeatedly over a course of time, before you can feel valued for who you really are. This is because once-external critics tend to lodge inside us as we grow, casting doubt and aspersions on our thoughts, feelings and actions. They deny permission for us feel our true feelings, instead keeping us trapped inside their outgrown attitudes of right and wrong. They can be hard to dislodge!

When you start counselling with me, the way in which we decide to proceed is arranged by agreement between us both, but is directed largely by you. Our therapeutic alliance is egalitarian. You will get more out of it if you keep focussed on why you have come to counselling, and a greater understanding of this often continues to evolve over time.

I will be transparent in our work together regarding how I experience you and how I am experiencing 'the work' (your therapy) as we go along. I will invite you to do the same. It keeps us on the same page. At times I may invite you to pause and spend more time with something if I sense it as potentially fruitful to you. Fine-tuning in this way keeps the therapy vital, flexible and effective.

From all this, you are hopefully sensing by now that coming to counselling is an active process on your part - no change can happen without your full involvement and commitment to it. It's hard work sometimes, and bringing our vulnerability when we're so conditioned to protect it can take time and reflection. The achievement of trust is key - I know - having been in the client chair a number of times myself, as all counsellors should. As such I do all I can to create a space that feels safe. Part of this is helping you realise that you are in the driving seat. Therefore expect to never feel pressured by me into looking at or talking about something that you don't feel ready to.

I believe we are all at once reassuringly similar and yet beautifully unique. I am used to hearing things which may sound 'peculiar', sad or taboo to others and, as you may have gathered by now, emotions are sensitively welcomed and treated as the precious resources that they are in working towards a more authentic way of being in your life.

If you would like to try this out, I warmly invite you to get in touch.  From first contact I can offer an initial free half-hour assessment session via Skype, Zoom or telephone. I operate my face-to-face counselling service in Shepton Mallet, and my online counselling service is based in Wells. Please see my Contact page for further details. 

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